Making a relationship work requires the combined efforts of both partners; but it is believed
that in some cases, it tilts towards a particular individual in the relationship. And Nigerian
Pilot sampled divergent views of Nigerians on the subject matter.
Catherine Iwundu, Teacher
It depends on the individuals involved in the relationship, and what they both want. In most
cases men are usually more serious from the onset, but the moment they get under the skirt
of the lady, they withdraw; the lady out of not wanting to lose out will begin to put in more
efforts so that the relationship can work out.
Mathew James, Student
Men are usually more committed in relationships than the ladies. Financially they are more
committed, as they are expected to provide the needs of the lady. In terms of spending
quality time, they dedicate more time to the ladies than the ladies do to the men. If a man
truly loves a lady, he is more committed and puts in more efforts to make sure the
relationship works.
Yemi Ogunbanwo, Student
Men are usually more dedicated and more committed in relationships than ladies, even
though it is the man who woos the lady, persuades her for several days or weeks to get her
to say yes.
When in the relationship, he puts in everything to make sure he pleases the lady. When a
man truly loves a lady, he sacrifices and makes sure he puts in all he has just to ensure the
relationship works. The lady on her part might be pretending to be committed, especially if
she is the type that likes money, she can pretend to be committed if she is getting material
benefits from the man.
Chioma Abraham, Trader
Women are more committed in relationships than men. If a woman truly loves you, she puts
in all she has to make the relationship work out. It is only when a woman does not love a
man that she does not show any commitment. That is why some men take the ladies for
granted. When they are shown too much love and commitment, if a lady loves a man
deeply, she shows more dedication than the man. Some of the ladies that tend to show less
commitment in a relationship do so out of what they have seen and passed through in the
hands of men.
Abiodun Micheal Transporter
It depends on the individuals concerned. Some ladies can be more committed than men in a
relationship. And as such if a lady truly loves you, she will show more commitment. In the
same vein, if a man truly loves a lady, he will go extra mile to prove his love for her, so that
is why I said it depends on the individuals involved in the relationship.
Helen Maduka, Stylist
Women are more committed in relationships. Most men are ‘players;’ they pretend to be
committed, especially if the relationship is new; once they get what they want in the
relationship, that is when it will dawn on you that they don’t even love you, not to talk of
being committed. So, i think ladies are more committed than men in relationships.
Christiana Babatope, Student
Ladies show more commitment in a relationship than the men folk. When a lady loves a
man deeply, she shows it with all dedication, but men are pretenders; they only pretend to
be committed when they are after what’s under the skirt; the moment they succeed in
getting what they are after, that is when you know they are just pretenders.
From my experience, I thought a guy I once dated truly loved me; it was until he proved the
real him, after he had succeeded in getting what he wanted that I got to know he was just
pretending.
Ifeanyi Chukwuemeka, Trader
Men are more committed when they truly love a lady; it is only when a lady is not really
serious with the relationship that men tend to slack. But when a man deeply loves a lady, he
shows the real commitment, not just financially but in every aspect.
Why it is like the men are not committed is because of the fact that women double-date a
lot. Hardly will you see a lady now without two to three boyfriends; so a man wouldn’t want
to be committed to such relationship because he knows quite well that the lady can ditch
him anytime. That is why some people see men as not really been serious in relationships.
George Omeiza, Businessman
If a man truly loves a woman, he will be more committed in the relationship; it’s only when
a man does not love a woman that he does not show commitment in the relationship. The
harsh economic situation in the country equally contribute to the reason why most men
don’t really show much commitment in relationships anymore, theirs is to make demands,
not wanting to know if the man is capable or not, so the only way the man can evade all the
lady’s demands is to show less commitment.
End
Homes
How you should vacuum your couch
By Joy Imisi
We all love relaxing on our couch but it’s no fun to lounge on a dirty sofa. Over time,
crumbs, spilled soda, pet hair, dirt, and oil from your hands and feet build up on your couch
and make it look dirty. Keeping your couch clean might always be a struggle, especially
when you have messy toddlers, distracted teenagers, a less-than-neat roommate or an
untidy spouse.
Here’s how to clean a couch so that it’s ready for you to watch an entire season of your
favourite TV show.
Cleaning specialists prolong the life of your furniture
Daily use can leave your furniture looking drab and grubby, especially if you have kids with
sticky fingers in your household. Over time, dust and dirt can cause friction within the fabric
fibres, causing fraying and thinning, and many people replace their furniture because of this
damage.
A regular cleaning can leave your furniture looking as good as new, reduce wear and tear
and make your upholstered pieces last longer.
Adequate cleaning can banish nasty odours
Spilt food can easily disappear into your furniture, encouraging bacterial growth and leading
to nasty odours in your home that no amount of air freshener will mask. Cooking smells can
become trapped in the fabric of your chairs too, making the whole house smell stale.
When your upholstery is cleaned, harmful food residue will be removed and the smells will
vanish too. You can also have your furniture treated with a special deodoriser if you wish.
Thorough cleaning can protects your family from allergens
Even though you may vacuum your carpets regularly, dust, pollen and pet dander can still
become trapped in your upholstery. In addition, allergy-causing dust mites thrive on dead
skin and pet dander, all of which will be present in abundance in your furniture’s fabric.
Whenever someone sits down in a chair, a cloud of these allergens is pushed up into the
atmosphere where it can be inhaled, triggering allergies and other respiratory conditions,
such as asthma. The most effective way of preventing allergens from hiding in your
upholstery is to have your furniture cleaned regularly.
Vacuum thoroughly
Get the upholstery attachment of your hover and carefully run it over the furniture. Take
your time to lift cushions and vacuum underneath. Don’t miss small, hard to reach places
like corners and folds. This is a very important step. If there are some small particles trapped
in the creases of your sofa they will deteriorate the fabric over time, shortening the lifespan
of the furniture. Some may object that this step is unnecessary for leather and faux leather
couches but this isn’t true. Your leather furniture also needs a good vacuuming over time.
Dust and dirt can make the upholstery age faster and contribute to the dull look of the
material.
Keep cushions in a good shape
The sofa is undoubtedly the furniture that is used the most often by everyone at home,
especially during winter. This is why it’s not a surprise that over time your couch literally
starts changing its shape. You can take care of that and prevent the cushions from getting
that baggy, worn out look. Every time you vacuum your furniture, spare one additional
minute to flip the cushions. You can also rotate them, changing their places if the model
allows it. This way your sofa will wear more slowly and evenly, keeping it’s good shape
longer.
Take care of spots and spills
This may seem obvious but many admit they often postpone cleaning spills from their
furniture. We know, that after a long day at work, taking care of the sauce splash on the
couch is the last thing you want to do. But believe us, it’s worth the effort. When you treat
spills right away, you lower their chance of turning into permanent stains. Choose a quality
upholstery stain removal product appropriate for the type of fabric of your sofa.
In summary
You can prolong the life of your furniture, keep it looking and smelling fresh, and reduce the
risk of harmful allergens affecting your family by having your upholstery cleaned on a
regular basis.